Fading friendships

Hey friend 

I am here to be your friend and you are never alone

My friend does not have to fight battles alone

I am here

My friend does not have to cry in silence

I am here

My friend is looking to find a friend in someone else

I am here

My friend is not weak

I am here

My friend is not falling or failing 

I am here

My friend please do not leave

I am here…

As we grow up.

We become more and more lonely.

Even when we keep adding to our friend list from childhood.

Friends seem to fade away.

When we talk to a friend after a long time, it feels we were never away.

But each day as we live, we feel we don't have anyone to talk to.

It's not that we are not loved.

But the truth is as we all grow up, our lives become more complicated.

Each individual has a different way of dealing with their own stress.

Friends seem to fade away in their own troubles, leaving each other alone.

Everyone is struggling and some are predisposed to struggle alone.

But what about those who are looking to share.

What about those who are looking for their friends to share and also respect the space they need.

Some get into loneliness and some are served with loneliness, making everyone miserable.

Friendship is one relationship, which is the most undervalued.

Friendship stands on the belief: 

A friend is supposed to understand.

The efforts are not supposed to be extravagant, the friend-love is not supposed to be the priority, the expectations are often marred by being understanding.

Any other relationship becomes more important than the friendship. 

What do we do:

We don't need to experience our pain alone, let's share.

Every relationship has some or the other transactional bases, so talk about your expectations and needs.

Finding new friends doesn't mean that one is ditching the other friend, monogamy is not a deal in friendship.

Counseling sessions to talk to a professional without judgement and letting it all out is needed for a good mental health. It's high time we normalise it. 

There is no guilt in letting go or holding on to a friend. Time will definitely show the path.

So...

With a hope we all get good friends and get to keep them close. Let's value our friend-love more.

With this note

I look forward for my friends 

I am missing my pal

Please do not leave me alone as you left yourself alone…

Come back to me for the good times we had

Come back to me for the hard times we have

Let me have the honour to be your friend in your most difficult time

Because I feel lonely when you are lonely 

My friend… My love… I am here